Coping with Grief
Losing someone or something you love or care deeply about is very painful. You may experience all kinds of difficult emotions and it may feel like the pain and sadness you're experiencing will never let up. These are normal reactions to a significant loss. But while there is no right or wrong way to grieve, there are healthy ways to cope with the pain that, in time, can renew you and permit you to move on.
Modern psychologists have said that grief when a loved one has died is very similar the “The Five Stages of Grief” postulated many years also by Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross ( denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance) . It is not uncommon to be in denial, to feel anger, and to be depressed. Sometimes you may even believe these feelings will last forever, and you will never heal. It’s important to remember that grief is a natural, normal emotion to a significant loss, and that you’re not alone. Some of the resources you may use are to reach out to your support network through family and friends. Don’t be afraid to lean on the people who care about you. While there is no right or wrong way to grieve, there are healthy ways to cope with the pain.
Finding Support After a Loss
- Turn to friends and family members - Now is the time to lean on the people who care about you, even if you take pride in being strong and self-sufficient. Draw loved ones close, rather than avoiding them, and accept the assistance that’s offered. Oftentimes, people want to help but don’t know how, so tell them what you need—whether it’s a shoulder to cry on or help with funeral arrangements.
- Draw comfort from your faith - If you follow a religious tradition, embrace the comfort its mourning rituals can provide. Spiritual activities that are meaningful to you—such as praying, meditating, or going to church—can offer solace. If you’re questioning your faith in the wake of the loss, talk to a clergy member or others in your religious community.
- Join a support group - Grief can feel very lonely, even when you have loved ones around. Sharing your sorrow with others who have experienced similar losses can help. To find a bereavement support group in your area, contact local hospitals, hospices, funeral homes, and counseling centers.
- Talk to a therapist or grief counselor - If your grief feels like too much to bear, call a mental health professional with experience in grief counseling. An experienced therapist can help you work through intense emotions and overcome obstacles to your grieving.
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